Summary

Learn how to understand that this transition was always coming, how you can reclaim your power, rewrite your story, redefine what’s important to you, let go of the past, and move your life forward with confidence. MORE LEMON includes exercises designed to support your transition process, and self-care exercises and activities to keep you motivated and buoyant. Lee also shares her story and tells how she made her successful transition using the steps detailed in MORE LEMON.

What others say

""MORE LEMON" is a must read for anyone who would like to align their current goals with their life values. Jai and Julie are great teachers and their book will change your life".
Jacq Love, Author.

“I found the book motivating and encouraging, with positive ideas reinforced through practical exercises. The text is easy to read and understand, while still accurate to recognised theory of positive and constructive behaviours. The narrative will resonate with many people who have reached a time in their life, and are ready for change either through choice or circumstances”.
Robyn Culbert, Trainer.

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Here is a taste of MORE LEMON

Chapter 1

book-starter


Reclaim your story

One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore…Andre Gide

Congratulations. You are here at this point of change. Whether you feel you engineered the change or that it was thrust upon you doesn’t matter. You are about to enter one of the most important phases of your life and transition from an old life to a new one. You have chosen to believe and invest in yourself and do something different to jump-start or re-invigorate your life. How exciting and how brilliant that you have decided to embrace this new opportunity for growth and self-awareness and ensure your future success!

Understandably at this stage some of you may not feel that you have authored or engineered this change. You may feel that it has been imposed on you and that you are a pawn in someone else’s game. However the underlying belief of this book is that you create everything in your life and you are, in some small or large way, the author of where you find yourself. Which, if you are reading this book, is on the brink of something extraordinary, something transformative.

Do you feel like you own the change that you are going through or do you feel like a victim? Often we feel that we didn’t see the change coming, that it arrived out of the blue, and now we have to deal with it and all the related consequences. But is this really the case? Were negative things happening in your life before the ’big event’, the ’big catalyst’ occurred? Were there warning signals you chose to ignore? Were you too busy, was the conversation too hard, were you not ready for the change, were you too afraid to take the big step required to move things in a different direction?

Chapter 1

book-starter


Reclaim your story

One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore…Andre Gide

Congratulations. You are here at this point of change. Whether you feel you engineered the change or that it was thrust upon you doesn’t matter. You are about to enter one of the most important phases of your life and transition from an old life to a new one. You have chosen to believe and invest in yourself and do something different to jump-start or re-invigorate your life. How exciting and how brilliant that you have decided to embrace this new opportunity for growth and self-awareness and ensure your future success!

Understandably at this stage some of you may not feel that you have authored or engineered this change. You may feel that it has been imposed on you and that you are a pawn in someone else’s game. However the underlying belief of this book is that you create everything in your life and you are, in some small or large way, the author of where you find yourself. Which, if you are reading this book, is on the brink of something extraordinary, something transformative.

Do you feel like you own the change that you are going through or do you feel like a victim? Often we feel that we didn’t see the change coming, that it arrived out of the blue, and now we have to deal with it and all the related consequences. But is this really the case? Were negative things happening in your life before the ’big event’, the ’big catalyst’ occurred? Were there warning signals you chose to ignore? Were you too busy, was the conversation too hard, were you not ready for the change, were you too afraid to take the big step required to move things in a different direction?

Chapter 2

book-starter


Reclaim your power

It’s never too late to be what you might have been. George Eliot

In the last chapter you learned about yellow flags, the signs along the way that indicated that change was needed, or that change was coming. Whether you responded to these yellow flags, or ignored them, has helped you to understand how you have arrived at this current junction in your life. In this chapter we are going to take that one step further by looking at how you can reclaim your power as the director of your life moving forward.

We all have control over three things in our lives:

1. How we think
2. What we imagine and visualise
3. What actions we take or do not take, including our behaviour.

How empowered we feel in our lives is determined by how we think, what we imagine, where we place our focus (past, present, future) and what actions we do or do not take.

In transition it can become easy to feel like a victim, particularly if you think that the actions of others have negatively impacted on your life and your future. However in this position you cannot feel powerful and you need to harness all of your power to transition to your new life as quickly as possible. Blaming others will keep you mired in the past. Focusing on what others did or did not do to you will waste a lot of your time and energy. It will prevent you from moving forward and getting on with your life. To help you reclaim your power we are going to talk about the role of your vision for your life. A vision that will help you take control of the past and move your life forward. We want you to feel as strong and capable and empowered as we know you are.

So let’s begin by talking about what it means to give up your power in life and then we will talk about ways you can take it back. Ready to get started? Great.

Chapter 3

book-starter


Retell your story

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. Albert Einstein

Stories are important as they are how we communicate who we are, where we’ve come from, how we’ve evolved, and the plans and dreams we have for our lives. They are part of our identity and determine the way we connect with others and our community. We all have our own unique stories to tell and we are the ones best placed to tell them. Storytelling is integral to our lives.

When going through transition it is important to pay particular attention to the story you are telling others and yourself. Your story conveys whether you are being a victim or a creator, the passenger or the driver of your own life. As the creator/driver you are telling others you are in control of your life and where you want to take it. You are providing them, and yourself, with a narrative for where you have been and where you are heading. After all, you are the only one who can write your life story. Stories provide opportunities for others to help you reach your objective. If you tell a victim story listeners will only be able to sympathise with you and are unlikely to be prompted to think of ways they can help you move forward either directly or by referring you to others; they have no really helpful entry point into your narrative1.

It’s now time for you to create your own new story, to retell your current story so that you are the author of your life and not the victim. A story where you take full responsibility for what has occurred to date and one that will determine how you move forward. It’s time for you to create a new narrative, one that tells others that you are in control of your life.

Lee’s story

The story Lee initially told her friends and family when she left work was that she had not been enjoying her work and the people she worked with, so when offered an opportunity to leave she took it. However, this was only one version of what occurred

Chapter 4

book-starter

Reinforce your new story

If you’re not having fun, you’re doing something wrong. Groucho Marx

To support your new life story, everything you think, say and do should be intentionally positive and aligned with your new story. To make the necessary changes you will need to become very conscious of your new vision. This awareness will allow you to: 1. take control of your thoughts, mental images, and behaviours; 2. ensure they are positive at all times; and 3. move beyond your habitual responses. The aim is to prevent you from reverting to patterns that are negative and based on the old you and make sure you are working in support of your new life story.

How to have a happy life

When in transition and creating a new life, telling a new life story, it is important to do more of the things that support you and that you like to do and enjoy. The more of these you do the more likely you are to be happy and fulfilled. This helps counteract the stress of the change that you are going through. Conversely when you do things you don’t like or enjoy, or which take you out of alignment with your values (we cover values in a later chapter), the more likely you are to be unhappy, dissatisfied with life and possibly even depressed. In short, having a happy life is a really simple formula and in applying this formula to your life consider:

• doing more of what is working and feels good
• doing less of what isn’t working
• trying out new behaviours to see if they produce better results.

How do we know what is working and what is not? Your mind, your body and your life are constantly giving you positive and negative feedback. This is similar to the yellow flags concept we discussed in Chapter 1, but this time there is no tsunami coming. This is just feedback. Positive feedback can be internal and external. Positive external feedback can include material things such as awards, pay raises, business won, compliments, and

MORE LEMON provides you with a step-by-step guide on how to transition to a new life.

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MORE LEMON provides an effective step by step guide to transition to your new life based on clear values and life purpose and a strong vision for your future and provides you with a blueprint to create a life filled with more zest.

WHY READ THIS BOOK?

Grounded in theory, MORE LEMON draws on positive psychology and transpersonal theories of behaviour change.

<strong>Self-care activities</strong>

Self-care activities

A range of self-care activities and exercises so you can fully support yourself fully during your time of change.

Lee's story

Follow Lee's transition journey and how she works through each stage.

<strong>Lee's story</strong>
<strong>Power Up</strong>

Power Up

Practical exercises to reenergise you and keep you motivated as you move into your new life, the new you.

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MEET THE AUTHORS

Jai Waters

Jai Waters

Jai Waters is a registered psychologist, writer and entrepreneur. She is a transformation and change management specialist with over 25 years’ experience in the higher education sector. She is the co-founder and CEO of SEPIA Consulting, which specialises in transformation. She has recently created a new online business called HIGHER GRADES aimed at helping university students succeed.

Jai has an Executive Masters in Business Management (Distinction), a Graduate Certificate in Change Management, a Masters Degree in Clinical Psychology and an Honours Degree in Psychology. She is a certified Canfield Success Principles trainer and was personally coached and instructed by Jack Canfield, America’s No 1 Success Coach.

She has studied and trained with some of the great masters of success and transformational change including Jack Canfield (Success Coaching); Lucia Cappachione (Visioning); Robert Fritz (Structural Tension); Dr Tony Goldsmith (Strategic Conversations); David Rock (Results Coaching); Dave Snowden (Backcasting and Complexity Theory); and Peter Wallman (Passion Mapping). She is passionate about learning and personal development as the foundation of success.

To find out more about Jai’s coaching and training programs or to enquire about hiring her as a speaker, you can contract her by email on [email protected]

JULIE REGAN

JULIE REGAN

Julie Regan is a professional transition coach, working with people in career transition and those exploring and developing their artistic and creative practice. She is the Director of Creative Coaching Options and brings over 20 years’ experience working in the creative arts in Australia with organisations including the Australia Council for the Arts, and the Australian Film Commission (now Screen Australia) to her coaching practice. She is currently the creativity coach for Comics Mastermind and a coach/ consultant at Choice Career Services where she has worked with clients from Alcoa, Coca-Cola Amatil, John Holland Aviation and Telstra.

Julie has a Masters of Applied Science (Psychology of Coaching) from the University of Sydney; a Bachelor of Arts in Communication (Film major); a Bachelor of Arts (Social Science); a Graduate Diploma in Arts Management; and a Certificate II in Arts (Interactive Multimedia). She is a graduate of Eric Maisel’s Introduction and Advanced Creativity Coaching courses. She is a lifelong learner, passionate about professional and personal development, believing that learning is one of the foundations of a meaningful life. She is currently working on her first novel.
Contact Julie at [email protected]

Other Services

ONLINE COACHING SUPPORT

It’s easier to manage your transition when you have a professional coach helping you along the way. Jai and Julie offer personal coaching programs based on MORE LEMON designed to help you transition to a life with more ZEST.

MORE LEMON WORKSHOPS

Every year at a beautiful resort location, Jai and Julie conduct workshops with people from all over the world who are seeking to accelerate their personal change and transition process. With their personal guidance you’ll identify and remove any fears and limiting beliefs that are stopping you, get clear on what you really want from your life, and create an action plan and the support system that will make it happen.

MORE LEMON FOR COACHES

Jai and Julie conduct a range of events for coaches and other professionals interested in personal transformation. They provide in-depth training on how to apply the MORE LEMON transition steps and activities to your practice. Tailored organisational training events are also available.